They Loved Deeply

Our recent November 6thelection had people pointing fingers in every direction.  One candidate telling us why we should not vote for their opponent and the opponent telling us why we should not vote for the other candidate.  The news and social media were mostly about the negatives.  There was very little positive.

If we are always tuned to the latest news stories and social media, this electronic rudeness seems to be the foundation of much of what transpires in our culture.  However, don’t be fooled.  There is still real goodness in the world.  Today’s story authored by Rose Minutaglio, is about two people who found remarkable love.  Here they are below…Isabell and Preble Staver.


Isabell and Preble met in the 1940’s and were married in 1946.  They were married for 71 years.  Even after all this time together they would still take naps together just holding hands.  It was clear they deeply loved each other and had loved each other through all their years together.

One morning Isabell died. She was 95.  Preble’s daughter told him that his wife had just passed away and that “It’s OK for you to let go now”.  Meaning, of course, that it is OK for Preble to pass away.  His job on earth was complete.  At about 8 PM on that same evening Preble passed away. Together for 71 years both husband and wife passed away on the same day.  They existed for each other.  Preble spent his life making certain his wife was OK and Isabell did all she could to take care of Preble through the years.

When you hear this story don’t you just wonder about your priorities?  Don’t you wonder why as a culture we spend so much time on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram instead of taking time to talk with our spouse or children about something important to them? Do you wonder if the best use of our limited time on earth is to engage in rude interactions about politics?  We spend our time talking about things with so little lasting value.

Preble and Isabell got it right.  They knew that life was about kindness, generosity, selflessness, and love.  They spent a lifetime refining these traits and caring for each other and their family.

We can all learn many lessons from the Stavers.  Let’s spend less time watching funny videos on Facebook, less time staging the perfect shot on Instagram, and less time arguing with people on Twitter.  Instead let’s focus on things that enrich our lives, the lives of those in our families, and the lives of those who cross our path.



Hey…I Got Another Like!

I was talking with a young lady not long ago and here is what she told me. She said that she had a lot of work to do but thought she would just go check Facebook before starting her work. She laughed and said that before she knew it she had spent several hours on Facebook. She still had all her work to do and had wasted several valuable hours.

A report from Bloomberg that was released last week gave these statistics:

  • Facebook revenue is now at $2.91 billion.
  • Facebook has 1.32 billion active users.
  • Facebook says that the average user spends 40 minutes every day checking Facebook.

Many Facebook users also have Instagram accounts. Business Insider recently reported that the average Instagram user spends 21 minutes a day checking their accounts.

Many folks today don’t limit their social media experience to only these two platforms. Many folks also have Twitter, Snapchat, and Pinterest accounts. However, let me give you the benefit of the doubt and say that you only use Facebook and Instagram.   The average user is spending one hour each day on only these two social media platforms.

What could you do with an extra 7 hours of time every week? You could spend more time with God, your spouse, your children, reading your bible, exercising, or maybe just relaxing a bit.

Sometimes I think we have become tangled in this social media time trap. What problems have you actually solved on social media? What solutions have sprung from your time on Facebook? How have you grown spiritually on social media? Am I saying that you should leave your social media accounts? Of course not…that’s your call. But I am saying go figure out if you are wasting time there. Keep a log for the next week and see how many hours you are spending on social media. On that same log, keep an account of the problems you have solved and solutions developed during those hours.

You might be surprised by what you find and make a change. A change that will provide more time in your life to focus on issues that really make a difference for your life and the lives of those you love.