They Really Said That?

The world is full of gossip…it’s everywhere. It’s not just at work anymore. With the use of social media sites like Facebook and Twitter, gossip has spread like wildfire.

Eventually, someone is going to talk about you in a way that hurts and they most likely will not do it to your face. It may be something they say to a friend who just needs to make sure they tell you. It may be something they say on social media. Face it…it’s going to happen to you. Your first instinct might be to get revenge but we know that is not a Biblical response.

So how do you handle the drama and gossip in a Biblical way?

First, when someone wants to gossip to you about someone else tell them you’re not interested. I can tell you this…people who gossip about others to you will gossip about you to others.

What does scripture say about gossip? It says a lot! Here are three verses that address the issue of gossip:

Proverbs 20:19 says:

A gossip goes around telling secrets, so don’t hang around with chatterers.

Ephesians 4:29 says:

Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

How do you handle it when someone is talking about you? Let’s look at Matthew 18.

If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.

Sometimes people tell me this scripture doesn’t apply because no sin was committed. However, it’s usually the gossipers who say this. I think it’s very clear from the verses I just spoke about that gossip is sin.

So, dealing with drama and gossip is pretty straightforward in scripture. Proverbs makes it simple…don’t hang around with gossips. Second, if someone does gossip about you, go to them and follow the Matthew 18 principle. You might be surprised how much can be accomplished by talking with someone face to face.

It’s pretty evident that God dislikes gossip. Run from it, don’t be a part of it. Instead, as we read in Ephesians, Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

Have You Ever Been Stung Like This?

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Let me tell you an old story about a scorpion and a frog.  The frog was getting ready to cross the river and the scorpion begged the frog to allow the scorpion to ride on the frog’s back as he crossed.  Of course the frog wasn’t very cooperative.  He was afraid the scorpion was going to sting him as they were crossing.  The scorpion convinced the frog to take him along saying that if he stung him they would both die crossing the river so the frog didn’t need to worry about being stung.

Part way across the river the scorpion stung the frog.  Just before both of them drowned, the frog asked the scorpion why he had stung him.  What was the scorpion’s response?  I just had to.  It’s my nature. You see, stinging is what scorpions do.  They can’t help it.

When I think of this story, I also think about our nature as followers of Christ.  By definition, we should be modeling the behavior of Christ and following His teachings?

On my blog you can see a video of a young boy without any winter coat sitting on a bench in the cold.  Some people walk by him and do nothing.  Others stop and talk with him.  Still others give him their own coats and keep him warm.  What behavior would you model?

When people want to gossip and include you, as a follower of Christ, what is your natural response?  When someone does something to hurt you, as a follower of Christ, what is your natural response?  In other words, by your behaviors, how does anyone even know that you are a follower of Christ? What actions show that by following Christ your very nature has changed and that you are a new creation?

2 Corinthians 5:17 reminds us of this, Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!

So, may I encourage you not to be the scorpion that stings because that is his nature.  Rather, be the new creation in Christ and model what it means to be a follower of Christ.  Make the Godly characteristics taught in scripture your new nature.